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Kirstin Hotelling Zona's avatar

Love this ❤️

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Shane Pengov's avatar

I've always believed that the way we treat one another after sex is the clearest signal of where we stand. Thanks for this.

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Immago's avatar

So necessary...

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Rafia's avatar

You’ve managed to capture perfectly something I’ve thought about a lot, with many of the same conclusions. Here’s hoping this will stimulate some helpful conversations. ❤️

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Wendy Elizabeth Williams's avatar

"Kink world"... Deep sad sigh...I lived in Kink central, San Francisco, for 31 years. While I did not participate in "kink" in any way, I did observe sorrowful people used as recepticles...and thrown away. I repectfully disagree. I respect your freedom of speech. Wendy

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Crimson's avatar

Sex is a lot about passion and spontaneity and non verbal communication. This here sounds painfully boring:

Consent is explicit. Boundaries are named. Power is negotiated. And when it’s over—when the blindfolds come off and the ropes are untied—there’s aftercare: the practice of tending to each other once the scene has ended.

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Zoe Kors's avatar

Boredom is a choice. And if you have ongoing relationships with your partners, you can form your own language and rules to balance spontaneity and safety.

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